Jefferson O Imgbi
Anger management is a procedure of acquiring the skills to recognise signs that you are becoming angry, and taking action to deal with the situation in a positive way. In no way does anger management mean holding the anger in or trying to keep from feeling anger. Anger is a normal human emotion, a healthy one when it is expressed appropriately.
Anger is a physical and mental reaction to a perceived threat to you, your loved ones, your property, your self-image, or some part of your identity. Anger is a warning bell that tells you that something is wrong. Anger takes many different forms from irritation to blinding rage or resentment that festers over many years. Our feelings are influenced by our emotional make-up, how we view the world, what happens around us and our circumstances. Like other emotions, anger rarely acts alone. Anger is a normal emotion with a wide range of intensity, from mild irritation and frustration to rage.
Everyone experiences stress. We're all different. Some people seem to be able to roll with life’s punches, while others tend to crumble in the face of far smaller obstacles or frustrations. Some people even seem to thrive on the excitement and challenge of a high-stress lifestyle. Your ability to tolerate stress depends on many factors, including the quality of your relationships and support network, your life experiences, your emotional intelligence, and genetics.
Stress is a state of mental or emotional strain or tension resulting from adverse or demanding circumstances. Stress happens when you feel that you can’t cope with pressure and this pressure comes in many shapes and forms, and triggers physiological responses. These changes are best described as the fight-or-flight response.
Rejection basically means exclusion – from a group, an interaction, information, communication or emotional intimacy. When someone deliberately excludes you from any of these, your brain tells you that you’re experiencing rejection. Does rejection hurt? We all know it does – it feels lousy, especially in the context of a romantic relationship. The reason it hurts is because the experience of social pain, while temporarily distressing and hurtful, is an evolutionary adaptation that promotes social bonding and, ultimately, survival. When rejected you feel worthless and undesirable and this is where it hurts. It hurts because you take the rejection personal.
Dealing with Rejection —Volume 1
Rejection is to refuse to have, take, recognize, consider, submit to, take for some purpose, or use, to grant (a request, demand, etc.), to refuse to accept (someone or something); to discard as useless or unsatisfactory; to cast out or eject; vomit. Everyday people face all kinds of rejection. Rejection hurts very deeply and it also inflicts damage to our psychological well-being that goes well beyond mere emotional pain. Rejections can cause psychological wounds, the severity of which depends on the situation and our emotional health at the time. Specifically, rejections elicit emotional pain so sharp it affects our thinking, floods us with anger, erodes our confidence and self-esteem, and destabilizes our fundamental feeling of belonging.
The Art of Making Decision —Volume 2
Making decision is beautiful even if at the end the decision turns out to be a wrong one. Not making decision puts you in a state and it can cause anxiety which could affect your health. Everyone has anxiety from time to time but chronic anxiety can negatively impact your quality of life. It is a mental health disorder that can also have serious consequences for your physical health.
The Art of Making Decision —Volume 1
We are all making choices all the time. These choices are very important and valuable even if they seem to be little or simple at the time. They have the power to determine your future or your purpose in life.
How to Develop Yourself
Personal development has a greater scope than continuing professional development because it involves everything that you do as an individual. It is sometimes summarised as “becoming the person that you really want to be.” To effectively do this you first need to take stock of where you are personally and decide what is needed to bridge the gap to the “ideal” you. This involves an honest assessment of strengths and weaknesses, particularly in areas such as:
- Dealing with people
- Personal ethics
- Personal competencies
Aristotle once said “Dignity does not consist in possessing honours, but in deserving them.” Leadership is much the same way, as leadership does not consist in possessing a title; it consists chiefly in deserving that title. And you earn and deserve your title as a leader in only one way….by actually leading: that is by positively influencing others through your words and deeds to do what they otherwise would not be able to do, if left to their own devices. You need to develop yourself to the level where you can lead others.