will. The freedom to choose allows us to shape our lives exactly how we wish, provided we have the resources to do so. But the choice is difficult because it also represents sacrifice. Choosing something inherently means giving up something else, something we might want tomorrow, or next week and that won’t be available to us if we don’t grab it today.
Recently I had to let go of something I really valued for something different. It was a difficult choice to make. The situation around me reveals that it was the right choice, even if I don’t love it at the time. I decided to get all the information I need about this choice and force myself to love it. It is only when I fell in love with it that the universe opens up for me to see more reason and facts that I actually made the right choice. Acceptance in making choices is very relevant and important. I only found peace of mind when I accepted the choice.
Choice is the opportunity or power to choose between two or more possibilities; the opportunity or power to make a decision. Choices are made to satisfy five basic needs: survival, love and belonging, power, freedom, and fun. Everyone choose whichever option will maximise their interests and provide them with the greatest utility, or benefit.
Consider what you want from life and make sure your decisions help you reach your goals. Every day you have choices to make. Every choice you make, no matter how insignificant you think they are is important for the progression of your life. The choices you make today create your future. You may sometimes wonder, “Do my choices really matter?” Or you may even think, “If no one knows what I’m doing, do my decisions really affect anyone?” The answer is yes! Decisions do matter. All your choices do matter.
Which job should you take? What car should you buy? Should you ask him or her to marry you? Are you ready for another baby? Is this house right for you, or should you keep looking before you make an offer? Life is full of hard choices, and the bigger they are and the more options we have, the harder they get. As it happens, our brains are fairly binary. They can react very quickly when presented with two options, especially when one’s clearly better. When presented with more options, though, we choke up. It becomes really difficult and depending on your state of mind, it can discourage and depress you. Making choices shouldn’t be taken lightly because sometimes it could mean life and death.
Everyone has a choice, make a choice and decide, what choices they chose from. Choice is the act of picking or deciding between two or more possibilities. It is the opportunity or power to choose between two or more possibilities. Life is like a road. There are long and short roads; smooth and rocky roads; crooked and straight paths. In our life many roads would come our way as we journey through. You will come to a crossroad at one point in your life. How you survive depends on the quality of your choice.
There are roads that lead to a life of single blessedness, marriage, and religious vocation. There are also roads that lead to fame and fortune on one hand, or isolation and poverty on the other. There are roads to happiness as there are roads to sadness, roads towards victory and jubilation, and roads leading to defeat and disappointment. Just like any road, there are corners, detours, and crossroads in life. Perhaps the most perplexing road that you would encounter is a crossroad. With four roads to choose from and with limited knowledge on where they would go, which road will you take? What is the guarantee that you would choose the right one along the way? Would you take any road, or just stay where you are: in front of a crossroad?
There are choices you made in the past that looks terrible today. The truth is they are not if you consider all the factors and perimeters that prompted you to make that choice at the time. At the time you made the choice it was the best possible choice you could make in respect to the situation at hand. I will admonish you not to trouble yourself about the past, but rather to use it to learn and plan better for the future. In life there are no guarantees. You do not really know where a road will lead you until you take it. This is one of the most important things you need to realise about life. Nobody said that choosing to do the right thing all the time would always lead you to happiness.
The fear of failure paralyses most people from making decisions. You have the choice to act and not to be afraid. I have seen what fear does to people. I have encountered someone who became suicidal because of fear. You need to overcome fear no matter what. At times, we can put off making a decision because we don’t want to make the wrong one. When the reality is – there are no ‘wrong’ decisions. If you break down the term ‘wrong decision’ what does this even mean? Usually that we haven’t got the result that we wanted. No matter the kind of decision you make there is always an outcome. Sometimes the outcome benefits us more and sometimes it cost us more grief. Sometimes not getting what you want is a wonderful stroke of luck.
Come to think of it, have you ever thought of the word serendipity. Serendipity is the occurrence and development of events by chance in a happy or beneficial way. Sometimes you go out to look for something specific, but you get something different and what you get far outweigh what you were searching for. You need to be open to alternatives. You need flexibility and not be rigid in a certain way. As you do, you will see lots of hidden opportunities.
Life presents to you a good opportunity to identify things and create options. You have that choice at your disposal. What do you do with it? When faced with a crisis you need to be calm and look deep. What options does the situation give you? Sometimes the options are few, but sometimes they are numerous. But what do you do when you think that the situation offers no options? This is the time that you create your own possibilities. Make your creative mind work. You have the power to make your mind work.
Remember that there are no guarantees and wrong decisions are always at hindsight. So choose... decide... believe that you are choosing the best option at this point in time. Believe in you.
